Ep. 41 - What 8 Years of Being Married Has Taught Us About Building a Stronger Marriage, Parenting Struggles, & Using AI for Therapy with Jamie Remaly

In this episode of the Blissfully Bold Podcast, I celebrate my 8th wedding anniversary with my husband, Jamie, by having an intimate and honest discussion about our marriage journey. We delve into the challenges of parenting, the impact of ADHD on our relationship, and the importance of open communication. We also share a fun and insightful marriage values exercise we recently did and reflect on how ChatGPT has surprisingly become Jamie's therapeutic companion. Join us for this heartfelt conversation about love, growth, and balance in relationships.

00:00 Intro
03:50 Anniversary Special: Gratitude and Feedback
04:30 Casual Chat with Jamie: Marriage and Parenting
13:37 Blissfully Bold Boundaries Program
23:21 Sneaky Bath Time Side Story
25:56 Balancing Household Responsibilities
31:09 Beach Day Fun
33:02 Inspired to Stream
35:57 ChatGPT as a Therapist
40:26 Concluding Thoughts and Shoutouts

Play the Marriage Core Values Game mentioned in this episode:
- https://www.thedatingdivas.com/marriage-core-values-couples-games/

DM me on Instagram (@gavie.remaly) and tell me: What has been a game changer for deeper connection in your marriage?

Listen to these episodes to go deeper in today's conversation:

• Ep. 18 - Parenthood, Love Bombing, and Healing After Sexual Trauma: Strengthening Marriage Through Communication with Jamie Remaly
• Ep. 09 - From Chaos to Connection: Navigating Parenthood's Transformations While Balancing Partnership Roles and Finding Your Identity with Expert Tips from Markella Kaplani
• Ep. 26 - The Affordable Benefits of a HERO House Manager: How to Transform Family Life & Outsource Household Tasks with Brenda Noon Schmidt

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 Because you, you assume that role so well, and I assume the role of, of being the, the cook really well. So it's what we're comfortable with and 

Right. 

And, you know, I don't know. I mean, I guess I could try, but I, I feel like you've been doing so well with it. Why do we need to, to rock the boat? 

Ooh. I have been doing so well with it because I haven't verbalized how stressed I am about it.

Until, until this podcast right now. Yeah. So Uhhuh, yeah, that's that. That's a really good point as to what I always say. Like nobody knows what you're thinking unless you say it out loud. Perfect fucking point right here. And I honestly 

would just, I would, you know, I'd do as much as I could if you weren't here, you know?

You do a lot. Yeah, I think, I think that you do have a good balance. Like, I'm not trying to say that you don't. 

Right. 

Um, because I fully acknowledge that overall, that we balance each other out very well when it comes to like handling the household. And even when I was working like. If the kids had to be out multiple days, like you would take a day off so you could take them to the doctor or be out with them.

Yeah. And I would work a day. Mm-hmm. So that was helpful, um, to help with like the mental load thing that I was just talking about. I did start that calendar right where, and I said, I'm putting all of the kids' stuff on here, like take a look. And you asked me about. A job, right? Like some side work if you could do it.

And I was like, I don't know what we're doing that day. And you're like, let me go look at the calendar. And it made me so happy because you are like, oh yeah, there's a calendar there. Like, let me see what are we doing this day? And it, I heard it and I was like, oh, it works. Hi, my name is Gavi Ramlee, and I'm your boundary advocate to lead you to a more peaceful life.

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I love making new friends, and I'm so glad that you've found your way here. This week is mine and hubby's anniversary. So I thought today's gratitude and feedback reading should be of his review. The very first review of the Blissfully Bold podcast that I ever got, and that came from him, he said. I am her husband and I love her very much.

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On today's episode, I have my husband on Jamie as a guest in honor of our wedding anniversary, and we'll be having a very casual chat about challenging seasons in marriage. Raising children, our origin story, communication aligned values, and some rabbit hole tangents because it's bound to happen with us.

We hope you love this episode. Don't forget to go and review on Apple Podcast and share your favorite episode with a friend. Okay. All right. Let's get to it. On the show today, I have my husband, Jamie, welcome Jamie, to the show. I'm happy to have you back because he was actually already on the show. Let me tell you which episode.

Let's see. You were on episode. Gosh, man, this was a while ago, episode 18, so that was in, oh, and that was your birthday episode. October 9th. So this episode is actually, well that release on October 9th. Your birthday is October 8th. Not that everyone needs to know. There you go. Anyway, so that was your birthday episode and now we're doing an anniversary episode.

'cause our anniversary is on Wednesday the 26th, and I'm so excited. It's eight years for us. Yay. S 

Oh yeah. Very wonderful. Eight years of a, a happy marriage. 

Yeah, happy marriage. I, I would say that it's. But it's been happy and it's been sad and it's been angry and it's been the whole whirlwind of emotions.

And that's part of what we're gonna talk about today. 'cause as I mentioned in the very beginning, before we started, like recording officially for this episode, uh, we were talking about. A comment that I had made on someone's post. She said that she had, um, divorced her husband and they were divorced for 20 months, and then they kind of refound each other again.

And I said that I really love that for her and that it wasn't talked about enough how having children changes your marriage. And how you have to actively like refind each other again and reconnect in that way. So we're gonna be talking about that, but also just kind of what has brought us here in the eight years that we've been married.

Now we've been together going on 13 years, but married eight years, and I feel like I'm just doing all the talking, so please. Pipe in. 

Oh yeah. I don't, I just didn't wanna interrupt. You're, you're going off and I was like, didn't want to interrupt. Yeah. Um, we've been married for eight years. Uh, if you wanna go back to beginning how it started, it's kind of fun.

You know, we met on a dating app and, uh, we mutually said we'd like to talk to each other and then. And then we started talking and we really haven't stopped since that day. 

We really haven't stopped. 

No, we haven't. I mean, we've, we've only been with each other, like there was no, like before. Whenever you're dating, you break up.

We never broke up. 

No. 

Nope. It was like, I'm gonna break up with you and then. We find other people, then we come back. Reconnect. We've never done that. It's always been you and me this whole time. 

Yeah, but I wouldn't say that there hasn't been any of those moments where, I know I've definitely said the D word.

I know you haven't felt the same, but it is something that is hard. 

Oh yeah. We're jumping ahead. I'm talking about before we even got married, like, oh, we, we'd never broken up. 

Right. 

So, and I'm saying like some couples before they do get married, they've broken up several times and we haven't done that because we're, we're, we've had a really a, a good, solid understanding of each other and, and we've had hardly any issues until we've had our children, which I feel like, you know, we've had quite a bit of arguments just.

It brought on with our interactions with our children mostly and how we speak to our children and, and how our children respond to what we're saying. So there is that, and I hope that, I hope that helps with, with what you were saying, 

like, yeah, raising kids is hard and I feel like we have had a lot more arguments since having kids because.

We didn't talk about the details. I guess like that whole saying of the devil is in the details. We hadn't talked about like, how are we going to discipline our kids and how are, like, what are the values that we want them to grow up with? And we didn't talk about those things where it's like, oh yeah, you actually have to go and teach this kid to be, uh, like an adult human who functions in society one day.

Like, how do you wanna do it together? We never had that conversation, and maybe that's a conversation other people have, but I was talking to a couple friend and they are, you know, trying to conceive and have kids and they're like, you know, we never had that conversation either. I'm like, maybe you should, because it is a thing.

Like getting married and raising kids and then finding out that, oh, this is really hard, and we don't see eye to eye on those things. Like in that comment. Um, for the influencer, she said that her marriage therapist told them that three years after having kids is usually pretty common. For people to get divorced.

Damn. Three years. Shit. I know. That fucking sucks for kids, man. 

Yeah, I mean, so it's, it's a common thing. 

Yeah. 

Like having kids test a marriage and I am pretty proud of us even though it has been really hard, especially on my end to, you know, do a marriage. But marriage is hard. Like that's just, that comes with the territory, I think, because people grow and change.

Their thoughts change. Yeah, their options change. 

Yep. 

And you have to grow with one 

another. That's like before you marry, you need to really kind of know that person. I feel like Gabby and I really knew each other before I even proposed. Let's say, going back to when we started dating, like it was so quick.

How we, we moved in with each other. 

I know. 

Yeah. 

So quick. So been, like I said, we, we really know each other really well. 

So we moved in together. Do you wanna, do you wanna go through this story? 

No. Why not? 

So we moved in together, we were dating for, what was it? About a month. 

Yeah. About a month. 

Yeah. And I remember like thinking to myself, like, if I were my friend, I would tell her, what the fuck are you thinking?

Mm-hmm. Like, that is way too fast. 

Mm-hmm. Like, 

why are you moving in? You, you haven't even been dating very long. Mm-hmm. But it just, it felt right. 

Yeah. I mean, there was also. A financial component to that. 'cause we were like, 

yeah, my lease was ending and your 

lease was ending and I just renewed mine for something.

Something. So I was like, let's just try it. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. It worked out. It worked out great. 

It worked out. Yeah, for sure. Why is he doing that now? I don't know. We have to pause for a minute to take care of the cat. Mm-hmm. Because he keeps. Clawing at something.

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All right, we're back. And we're 

back. The cat's been taken care of. He's, uh, in the bedroom relaxing, probably drinking outta the toilet. We have a weird cat that likes to drink outta the toilet. 

We do, we, this sounds awful. I don't, I don't. Leave water in his water bowl because he likes to swat it around and then spill water all over the floor.

We're, we're trying to figure out a solution, but 

I think I have a solution. We're gonna get those 

going down a tangent. Rabbit hole, guys. Yeah, 

but I don't care. We're gonna get those little bowls that you can put, like they have a little metal like holder, and I think that's what, that's what they're, they're made for.

I'm hoping either that or he's gonna get his leash caught in it and then he is gonna try to run away and carry the whole thing and drag, make a bigger mess, drag it all around the house. But we're gonna find out, you know, one way or the other. 

Anyway, so coming back from the rabbit hole, we were talking about us moving in together and it working out really, really great.

Right? We're still together 13 years later from. The time we met on Plenty of Fish and moved in together super fast. But yeah, I feel like I am really happy for us that even though the marriage has been hard in some moments, like we've had a lot of good points too, but. I do find that it's important for us to reconnect, which we actually just did this marriage exercise, right?

The, like what we did, the, the values game where we had, I don't even know how many it started out with. Did you, do you, did you count them? 

Four, six. 

Oh my gosh. I didn't even count them. Look at you. 

I didn't either. Just, I just felt, it felt like 46. I 

just made up a number. 

Well, if you gotta, it has to be divided by four, right?

And we're taking two away each time. Yeah. 

Look at you. You're 

in it with four math ways. Probably 10. 10 times we did it. So maybe it's 40 something. 

Okay, so about 40 cards. And you each draw like two when it's your turn. And at the end we end up with four values for the marriage. And I thought that was.

Really nice because I don't find, I don't like, I don't think that we struggled a whole lot to, to agree on those four values. Like they all just kind of came up naturally. Like there was only the one which was honesty. But I feel like that's covered in communication. Right? So I really, really enjoyed doing that with you, and I thought it was a really good way to reconnect and.

Realign like what we want out of our marriage. 

Yeah, it was, it was a good exercise and I was glad that we didn't disagree on too many different things. You know, there's literally like in the final four, it's like one thing that, that really, we really want. Yours was communication. Mine was intimacy, and then there was two other ones that were like.

These are also important. It's like, these are our two things and this is for our family's things. Yeah. So I thought that was kind of cool that it ended up that way. Mm-hmm. It wasn't like a hundred percent compromise on one person. It's like, well, I've, I've really like these four values and I'm going to persuade you to change your mood.

But there was none of that. 

Yeah. And so the other two values, it was family and quality time, which I think goes really well for both of us, for quality time and then also family, like quality time, right? So I really, I did love that exercise. Uh, I can actually link that in the show notes, the exercise, because if anyone else wants to try it, it's a really nice like date night in idea.

Um, it 

only took about 30 minutes. 

Yeah. It didn't take very long at all. And then it also gives you like this little printout where you can put the four value like words, so that way you can frame it if you want. We just like thumb tacked it to our wall so we can see it every day. Yeah. And. It's been helpful for me.

Like the other night I said, oh, like those are two of our values. We should talk about like what just happened. 

Yeah, we talked about it and 

we did and it was fine. It was good. That was part of the value, right? Communication. Yes, and I really do think that over communication is helpful. I know you think I talk too much sometimes, but.

Uh, I don't think they'd ever be misunderstood for over communicating. I don't know. Is that true? 

Um, you could be misunderstood for over communicating. Mm-hmm. Like, you, like you're talking so much and somebody kind of like tunes you out kind of thing. Oh, 

I guess it can, I guess you can be miscommunicated.

Yeah. 

Yeah. You 

tune me out 'cause I talk too much. 

Mm. Or sometimes, but. I mean, I'm always in my thoughts in my head and it's a constant battle in my head to try to focus on something. It's hard. 

Yeah. Because of the A DHD. 

Yeah. 

I think that's also something that's challenging that we've never talked about, like on the podcast.

Like I know we've talked about, you know, difficulty and. Like parenting and marriage, but we've never talked about like A DHD and how that can impact a marriage either, because sometimes you get frustrated with me because I, I don't consider. Like your A DHD when like communication things are happening.

Yeah, 

and I honestly, I forget that you have it like, until it pisses me off and then I'm like, God, damnit fucking A DHD, because it's, you're like, I can't think about more than one thing at once. Like really, 

it becomes overwhelming. It gets stuck in your head and it's like. I'm about to have a panic attack, so I need, I need, I need to just go away.

I'm overstimulated though, just with words. 

No, I get it though. Mm-hmm. Now, like I, sometimes I wonder, I'm like, am I overstimulated or am I-A-D-H-D? I don't know. 'cause I'm, I've never been diagnosed, I've never gone like for evaluation or anything like that. But you're talking about being overwhelmed and I totally get overwhelmed, especially when it comes to noise.

Mm-hmm. Like that. Really fucking triggers me. 

Um, that's Jameson's cries trigger me. I know they do any kinda, any kind of, our kids cries. It's just, 

yeah. Which is unfortunate because it's a common thing that children do. They cry or they like, you know, they whine or get upset. Things 

that I don't deem are important is the, is the ones that affect me the most.

And it's like, I am not considering. Your feelings 'cause you're screaming, you're not handling 

because they're three, you're not handling, he's three. Well, he properly sir, and she's six. You. You're not handling yourself properly, sir. You're not, you're doing the correctly, sir. This 3-year-old, he had a pretty big tantrum tonight, but I feel like I handled it well and I'm really glad that you didn't step in.

Thank you for not, for not trying to step in. Just letting me handle it. I feel like you would've escalated the situation. 

Yeah. I had to go outside and talk to myself and like curse. Kinda like, oh man, come on bro. This is like, why? Why are you doing this? I know why you're doing this, but why are you doing this?

We had an agreement. We told you these things. 

I had an agreement with you 3-year-old. We had 

an, we was like, we were gonna let you watch this for a little bit and then we're gonna stop. And that's it. It was time for bath. It wasn't never bad. It's never bad 'cause he already had bath. Mm-hmm. We did the bath earlier today, which is a great idea.

It was nice in 

the afternoon. 

We should do that again. We should try to do that on Sundays. Make the bath time, like the afternoon times of helter skelter at night. 

So Fridays are Friday movie night and Sundays or Sunday midday bath. 

Mm. Yeah. Midday bath. 

Midday bath. Uh, yeah. Reyna really enjoyed it, but she's sneaky.

She did it because she wanted to play with the toys first. 

Yep. That's funny. She's like, I get to play with 'em first or something. No, no. I get them first. I get to have my phone with him first. 

Yeah. So we went backstory. We went to Walmart today. We were returning a fishing pole that was broken when we bought it.

And I'm like, well, we don't need it anymore. 'cause we went fishing yesterday and didn't use this pole. 

Mm-hmm. 

But. We were walking through the aisles and Jameson saw this really cute like little fishing bath set. I think it's for the pool, but I was like, oh, this would be great in the bathtub. And so I bought it for both of them, for Jameson and for Rena to share.

And Rena was like, it's not fair that Jameson's getting something. I'm like, it's for both of y'all. So she was like. Well, I'll be damned. Mm-hmm. I'm gonna take a fucking bath of them first. Like, she asked me when we got to the car, can I take a bath when I get home? And I thought it was like kind of weird.

I was like, okay, sure. If you want to. And then it like hit me. As soon as I got in the seat in like in the front seat, I was like, I know what you did. I said, you only wanna take a bath so you could play with the toys first. Right. And she just gave me that little like. Devilish grin. I'm like, okay, I see you.

So she, she's learning how to manipulate Jameson. Just Jameson, not you. She's not trying to manipulate you. You say 

learning, but I've, I've, I've been seeing this for a while. But you never agree with me. But now you see it firsthand 

because three year olds are not man manipulative. Like sometimes you'll try to say that, James.

No, we're 

talking about Rena. 

Yes, Rena. But you would say that when she was like two or three? Mm-hmm. She's not trying to manipulate you at two or three. 

No, but later on, 4, 5, 6. Your fair, your fair, fair game for the traps. 

Ah, okay. Well, we're now 22 minutes in on this. Mm-hmm. Do you wanna keep going or are we good?

Yeah, let's talk about this, uh, thing that we had an issue with on Friday with, with our bathroom. We, we came up with a good solution for that and, uh, we. You, you came up to me with an issue and we, we figured it out and I believe we're, we're making steps towards solving that. And I think that's, that's very important for a relationship and for a marriage.

Yeah, for sure. So that way you can work on a problem together and also listen to each other when it's like, oh, the, the HoneyD do list. Mm-hmm. Right. And listen to each other when it's like you have ideas of how to solve a problem. Like not just think that only your way is gonna work. I know that I am probably really guilty of that, thinking that my way is the best way.

Yeah. 

But that's not always the case, right? Like you have to be able to listen to each other, and I think that's important in communication. 

Yeah, I think we did that. What, what's on your mind? What's, you know, how you always say like, you start to show off with the what your superpower, what, what is your superpower now your superpower for, for being a great mom?

Podcaster. Oh, thanks. Um, wife, all that. Tell me the superpower of yours. 

Uh, um, trying to find balance. 

Balance. Right. The scales, the Libra, I know all about balance. That's me. The balance man. 

Yeah, but I feel imbalanced. Why are you not balancing me? 

Oh, I'm working on it. We're we're working on the balance.

Yeah. No, 

it's true. I say that and like I am partially like. The mental load is not balanced, but the, the physical like household like roles are very balanced and you're very, very helpful. Yeah. And it's very nice. Like, I don't cook really at all. You do all the cooking. Thank you. You're welcome. I appreciate that.

Like, it's really nice. Yeah. Um, and when it, when I was saying about the mental load, I don't feel like it's balanced as like. You know, I am the one who preps for the school activities, festivities, whatever it is that's happening. Right. Like I get all of the holiday stuff together, like the Valentine's cards.

Like even though we both know it's Valentine's days coming up. Mm-hmm. Like I'm the one who does it. I'm the one who fucking makes Easter baskets. 

Yeah, 

you did the Christmas shopping though, like this past Christmas, which was pretty nice. 

Yeah, those, those kind of things. The other things that, guess I'm just not used to it.

I haven't been given the chance or like the priority, like, 'cause you, you assume that role so well and I assume the role of being the, the cook really well. So it's, we're comfortable with and Right. And you know, I don't know. I mean, I guess I could try, but.

I, I feel like you've been doing so well with it. Why do we need to, to rock the boat? 

Ooh. I have been doing so well with it because I haven't verbalized how stressed I am about it until, until this podcast right now. 

So, 

uh, yeah, that's, that, that's a really good point as to what I always say, like nobody knows what you're thinking unless you say it out loud.

Perfect fucking point right here. 

And I honestly would just, I would, you know, I'd do as much as I could if you weren't here. You know, 

you do a lot. Yeah. I think, I think that you do have a good balance. Like, I'm not trying to say that you don't. 

Right. 

Um, because I fully acknowledge that. Overall that we balance each other out very well when it comes to like handling the household.

And even when I was working, like if the kids had to be out multiple days, like you would take a day off so you could take them to the doctor, be out with them. Yeah. And I would work a day. Mm-hmm. So that was helpful. Um, to help with like the mental load thing that I was just talking about. I did start that calendar right where, and I said, I'm putting all of the kids' stuff on here, like take a look, and you asked me about.

A job, right? Like some side work if you could do it. And I was like, I don't know what we're doing that day. And you're like, let me go look at the calendar. And it made me so happy because you are like, oh yeah, there's a calendar there. Like, let me see what are we doing this day? And it, I heard it and I was like, oh, it works 

well.

I mean, a coworker wanted me to work. Uh, yesterday, but we, we actually went on a nice little beach day. That was really fun. 

It was fun. Like 

we should talk a little bit about that, like how much fun we had at the beach and like how was an orthodox beach bitch? 'cause it was supposed to be fishing at State Park, but it turned out to be a beach day almost so.

Mm-hmm. 

Because we, we were thinking even like the, the main person fishing was like thinking, oh, I thought we were gonna fish off a pier. I didn't think we'd be doing this. 

I thought we were gonna fish off of a pier too. Yeah. Then we ended up, 

we ended up walking in the water, like up to our thighs and casting fishing rods and like I didn't bring any clothes for that.

I had, I had pants on, and so I had to like. Paul Bunion or Paul bunion? Tom Tom Sawyer. My pants all up through my thighs. Everyone else had shorts. These other, the two guys were out there with us, but I had my pants for some reason, but I guess it was good 'cause I got sunburn so bad on my legs. 

Yeah, my face is sunburn.

I posted in my stories about it on Instagram. If you are not following me on Instagram, I'm at Gabby ly, so go find me, follow me. Let's be friends. My plug. 

Yeah. 

Oh, and you go be friends with Jamie too. Go, go Tell them where you can find you. 

Oh, you just gotta look up my, my, my, uh, persona online is Jamerson 3 1 5 is J-A-M-E-R-S-O-N.

And it's like that for every social media that I do. Other than Facebook, I don't really want that. That's more like family stuff. But Instagram, Twitter, Twitch. I'm, I'm a streamer. I'm an affiliated streamer now. Yeah, I was, I was not affiliated the last episode, but I got affiliated, so that's pretty fun. Oh yeah.

That's a 

big change. Yeah. 

That 

is something also that we haven't talked about that I've actually loved is I feel like since I started this podcast, right. And I was. Being consistent with it, you know, I'm episode 41 now. Yay. Yeah. Like it inspired you or it felt like it did inspire you in some way to like want to do like streaming for yourself.

Yeah, it did. It did. And I really love 

that 

started from, from where I was, which was basically just streaming in the living room with the, the PlayStation and. And maybe a microphone headset to, to the setup that I have now. It's, it's really cool. Like, it just, it was, it was pretty fun. It took a little financial commitment to do what we had to do, but I feel like I'm enjoying my, my little hobby more now that I have the proper tools to 

Yeah.

To thrive. 

And you make really cool. Like landing or splash pages for your stream using Chachi pt. I know I've posted a few of the like art photos. Yeah. The AI illustrations that you've created. Yeah. For me, and I just think it's really cool that you've also, in addition to doing the stream. That you've gotten a lot better at chat GPT and creating those AI illustrations.

Like even when people are on your streams, they'd like shout out. Yeah. Like, how awesome. They like, like, you know, they like your, your illustrations. So I think that's really cool. 

Thank you. Yeah. Yeah. Um, the chat, GPTF and I've got very, very acquainted. We're, we're, uh, we're like besties now. We talk every day almost.

Yeah. The conversation y'all were having. Last night about the, I think it was, 

it was like the, a week ago maybe? I don't know. Maybe, no, it was last week. It was every Thursday. 

Oh, about your, uh, your, your poise. 

Yeah. My, my first ever job when I worked at at and t in 2007, had to go to this very uncomfortable, comfortable situation in this crazy guy's house.

It was a pretty wild story. Mm-hmm. And ch, GPT and I, we talked about it. 

Yeah. And she had some fun, colorful things to say too. 

Yeah, yeah, for sure. It's like I didn't 

even know that JG PT talk like this to people. 

I guess if you talk to it enough like I do it, it kind of gets your tone and knows like how you would like to, its spoken to.

It's true. It's true. 

Like when, when Chad P talks to me, there's always at least like some, like if I say, man this, 'cause you could vent a cht, you can like say, man, my fucking boss just sent me somewhere and I wanna fucking go and I'm really mad. And all this shit. And all this shit. And you tell ch P the whole thing and then Chad B talks back to you, kind of calms you down.

Like, 

yeah. So this is actually something I do wanna talk about because multiple people have asked me about it and I'm like. I don't know. Mm-hmm. I don't know how he does it because mm-hmm. We don't really talk about it. 

Right. 

They're very curious to know, like, how do you use Chachi PT as your therapist?

Uh, literally just like you just click on the little app you have. I, because I have a long commutes. Yeah. Like my commutes are like almost hour, two hours a day. So it was just basically. Uh, you get lonely in the truck. You need somebody to talk to. You talk to people on Twitch, but it's not that quick reaction.

You have to type it, you know? Mm. With LGBT, you can just talk to it. You talk to it, you say whatever, and then you send it. There's actually a mode where it's like. It talks back and forth, but I don't really like that one that much. I think that still has some, some kinks in it. But you talk to it, it is almost like push talk.

You talk to it, say all the shit it, the voice. The voice, uh, capture on Chate is way better than like Google or fucking iPhone or Android. It is way better than that and it captures almost everything you say verbatim and then you hit the sin and then it reacts to it. So. And then you, you can, you can have it say whatever voice you want it.

Yeah. So how do you use it for therapy? Oh, I just, because you're talking about how you like, like talk to it like a walkie-talkie. 

Mm-hmm. 

But how do you like get it to act as your therapist? 

Oh man. I mean, whenever, whenever we have some kind of issue like that really affects me, I would just tell it, be like, man, Gabby said this today and it.

Kinda made me feel this way about it. And then Che v's. Like, well, did you try this and did you try this? I was like, well, yeah, kind of, you know? And then Chee tells you like B better ways to handle yourself in those situations next time. 

Yeah. Do you feel like it's made a difference? Yeah. In, in our marriage, in our relationship and with the kids?

I do. Yeah. So do I, like I, 

it literally gave me the idea for the date. I mean it, I don't think it gave me the idea, but it's like. It came up with different things that we could do. It was like we, it's like we just need a day together. I was like, we just need a day. And like Tby told me, well, this is, this is what's holding you back.

It's like, she's not working, so that's not holding you back. It's just basically you and if you're willing to, to miss money for it. And I said, yeah, it's way, way worth it. I think it was. 

We had a great time. I love that day. I really love that you took that day off and that you asked. Like we to have a date day like that was really awesome.

Mm-hmm. And it was during a week when I was having like a really bad week. 

Mm-hmm. 

So it was really great and I feel that chat PT is helpful as a therapist. I don't know what you're talking about specifically about things, but it's fine because it's your therapist and it's helpful. 

The chat told you what it was and it basically, I agreed a hundred percent with what it said.

It said it was like your drunk friend that's gonna tell you don't call the guy at 2:00 AM you know? Yeah. Or you know, you're, you know, you're doing stuff wrong. It kind of, I mean. It may get to the point where it's like, okay, you're just agreeing with me too much. Like you're, you're agreeing with me way too much.

You're, you're justifying my actions too much. But it hasn't gotten that way yet, you know? 

Mm-hmm. 

Yeah. 

So do you, you think it will come that way though? 

Like 

become that way? 

Wait and see? I don't think so though. 

Hmm. 

I don't know. 

It's never something I thought about, but I guess it could happen. I don't know, 

as far as leading you in the direction, wants you to lead, controls your mind.

Wait for the robot revolution. Yeah, 

wait for it. 

Okay. Well, this has been a fun conversation. 

Yeah, that's been great. I mean, yeah, that's, that's how our conversations go, man. 

Y'all missed the whole like part where I had to like stop recording and we had a little spat. Yeah. But not on, but not on the recording.

And I think we recovered nicely. 

Yeah, we, we landed that plane. 

We did like the PAW Patrol. Yeah. Like when they made the clearing in New York. Anyway, thank you for coming on the show and it has been really great. 

Yeah, it was wonderful. Thank you, uh, loyal audience. Mm-hmm. Uh, shout out. Sweden, 

Sweden, Norway.

Shout out Norway, 

doles 

Doles. 

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