Ep. 37 - Life Update: Why I’m Taking a Step Back (Without Quitting) and How to Recognize Your Own Signs of Burnout to Slow Down Before You Break Down

In this episode of the Blissfully Bold Podcast,  I share recent life updates, the challenges of balancing multiple responsibilities, and the decision to take a step back by creating shorter solo episodes for a little while. I also dig into identifying your own signs of burnout using the The Daily Planner for the Unapologetic Mom and the importance of self-care and self-awareness to catch yourself before you burn it all down.

00:00 Intro
02:31 Life Update: Balancing Podcasting and Personal Life
06:39 Recognizing Burnout: Personal Experiences and Advice
11:28 Microjournaling: A Tool for Self-Care and Identifying Your Signs of Burn Out 
13:02 Upcoming Projects and Final Thoughts

Listen to these episodes to go deeper in today's conversation:

• Ep. 35- Basic Self-Care Exhausted Moms Ignore (But Shouldn’t): How Ignoring Your Needs Impacts Those Around You
• Ep. 16 - My Journey from Burnout to Boundary Setting: Navigating Work-Life Balance and Mental Health
• Ep. 14 - Breaking Free from Millennial Burnout: Insight from from Intuitive Life Coach Alyson Haines on Healing Your Nervous System and Chronic Stress with Breathwork & Reiki

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Transcript

 Now I don't want to have to highlight the negative things, but more often than not, we know what we don't want before we know what we do want.  And so when you can Write down what it is that you don't like that's happening in your life.  You'll have a more concrete vision of what needs to change and what maybe that sign of burnout is. 

So if you don't already have it, go and download the daily planner for the unapologetic mom. That's going to be down in the show notes. And it'll help you to keep track of  these moments. That are bringing you down and what your signs of burnout are. Hi, my name is Gabby Ly and I'm your boundary advocate to lead you to a more peaceful life.

Four years ago, I was stuck in a deep depression, a fog covered lake in the dead of night with no idea of where to turn to get back to me. Or my own needs after seeking professional guidance to lead me out of the darkness, advocating for myself, my boundaries and my overall wellbeing has become a daily practice of self care here on the blissfully bold podcast, we'll chat about balancing life's chaos within ourselves and in everyday spaces, pumping the brakes on people, pleasing and understanding our personal needs to create the peace and happiness we so crave and deserve.

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Hey friend, welcome back to the Blissfully Bold Podcast. And if you're new here, Welcome, welcome. Thank you for joining. Um, today on the show,  we're going to be talking about a life update and knowing when to take a break. Now, I say take a break, and for me, taking a break is not  discontinuing or stopping the podcast.

It's just making shorter episodes and making them solos  because I really do love my podcast  but,  uh, it's starting to  become a lot in addition to other things.  Um, but before I dive into it, I want to give thanks back to you. I started a few episodes ago giving thanks to you by reading some of the really kind words that you have to say about the show and how much the show has helped you.

So, today we have A review from, I'm probably going to butcher this. I'm butchering her name and I'm sorry. Um, but,  Dee Skeen from Ireland.  They said, Very fun and informative podcast by a host with an infectious enthusiasm. In just a few short minutes, she had me thinking about my triggers and feelings, which really helped with my anxiety.

Please give a listen. You will be educated and entertained. Well, thank you. So much. I really appreciate that. I try to be really transparent and honest about my anxiety just because I know I'm not the only one who deals with it and  because I know that I have this anxiety I've actually started therapy recently with better help if you Want to check out BetterHelp for yourself, you can go to the show notes and check out my link for two free weeks.

That's basically saving about 150. So if you've been thinking about therapy and you've just been putting it off, here's a really good reason for you to just do it already.  Um, so yeah. Thank you, uh, Deeskeen, again, I'm sorry if I'm butchering your name, but those are some really, really kind words and I am so glad that I could help you with your anxiety just because I know how much of a burden it can be. 

But  let's get back into the life update. So  I have been building  a business.  With my podcast, and also with offering Blissfully Bold Boundaries. Well, that's what it's going to be rebranded to. You might know it as Crossroads Conversations, which is still available  for you to enroll in. You can go and visit Buy Me a Coffee, and you can either just throw a tip in the tip jar to support this show,  or you can go and enroll in Crossroads conversations and I'll drop that link below too.

But  I've been building my business and doing that and building this podcast.  And.  Also, having been laid off in June, which I've talked about before in the past, uh, so if you've missed it, I'm sure you can find it in episodes here on the show or even in just my content on Instagram. If you're not already following me, go and check me out.

I'm at gavi. romelli on Instagram.  Go and follow me and let's be friends. Let's connect. Send me a message. I want to know who you are. I want you to be in my community and for us to have conversations. So,  um,  Yeah, I've just been a little overwhelmed with  life things like being a parent, finances, building a business, building a podcast, like it becomes a lot, right? 

And  I am deciding to take my own advice And to slow down a little bit, as I mentioned a little while ago, if you've been here a little bit, then you know that I have a show where I have guests on sometimes and we talk about different things in life that you kind of build boundaries around, whether it be, you know, um, Building boundaries around your finances to be a digital nomad or building boundaries around your eating habits or being a mom.

There's so many things because boundaries touch every part of our lives.  So, I've been taking a step back from doing interviews. I do, um, plan to start those up again. I am just taking my time in finding the right guests that I feel like mesh with.  The message that I have here with the Blissfully Bold podcast.

So if you actually have something that you want to talk about, if you're an expert in something, um, just hit me up on Instagram in the DMs and we can have a chat and see if we are aligned to talk on the show.  But yeah, I've been taking a step back from that just because it does  take quite a bit of energy to  Find guests who, like I mentioned, align with,  who I feel that you as a listener  can resonate with and who would find value in the conversation.

And instead of taking A complete break from the podcast, because as I've mentioned, I do love it. I do love showing up here for you.  I have decided to do solo episodes for a little while.  So, here I am. And this is my version of simplifying, but still showing up.  So, in that,  I've mentioned, you know, feeling like there's a lot on my plate.

And feeling the need to slow down, but I haven't, and in past episodes, like episode 35, I had mentioned about  basic needs that moms tend to ignore,  which are like  disrupted daily habits, which we'll get into.  But,  you'll be able to realize that you're starting to burn out. When you're on the verge of just burning it all down,  just burning down everything that you created, it's time to take a break.

Not burn the boats, burn bridges, things like that. Like, just take a step back.  So,  It's important for you to be able to learn to recognize your personal signs of burnout. For example, mine have been being easily triggered and irritated  because I have been so stressed.  And I have found that I,  I don't want to be that person for the people that I love  in my life.

Like, I don't want to be.  The person who easily gets triggered and snaps Because I'm upset at something else not at them  and It looks like losing interest in what used to bring you joy  Like I'm gonna be 100 percent honest. Sometimes I'm like, oh, I don't want to record my podcast  But I also love it,  and I would be doing myself a disservice, in addition to you,  by not showing up, because I actually love this podcast.

Like, I got into podcasting.  because it brought me so much joy.  So, the fact that I was wanting to not do it anymore, like, that was a big red flag for me.  And, as I mentioned just a bit ago, like, having disrupted daily habits, like taking a shower, or brushing your teeth, or brushing your hair, or maybe you used to get dressed up.

Like, you used to  get your little outfit together, you'd do your hair, you'd do your makeup, or you'd have your nails done, and now it's like, it's just enough to take a shower and get dressed. And that's it.  Like, if you've kind of lost a little bit of yourself along the way, that's a sign of burnout.  And to be able to keep track of those things,  I find it really helpful, you already know what I'm going to say, to journal.

So, if you look at the daily planner sheet for the unapologetic mom, there's a section there for you to Plan your day like a typical planner, but on the entire right side, there is a dot grid space for you to microjournal. Now, don't let the word journal scare you. Microjournaling is just writing a sentence here or there throughout the day, just kind of noting, being more aware of what you're feeling in that moment. 

And  Especially the things that are bothering you. Now, I don't want to have to highlight the negative things, but more often than not, we know what we don't want before we know what we do want.  And so, when you can Write down what it is that you don't like that's happening in your life.  You'll have a more concrete vision of what needs to change and what maybe that sign of burnout is. 

So if you don't already have it go and download the daily planner for the unapologetic mom that's going to be down in the show notes and It'll help you to keep track of  these moments that are bringing you down and what your signs of burnout are.  I also have the audio series that's coming out that's going to be a companion to this and it has been delayed.

I wanted to get it out this month in February, but as I've mentioned, I've been feeling a little burnt out, and it is time for me to just slow down. So, the audio series is still coming, um, it's just a little delayed, and  if you are on my email list, then you will get the update of when it goes live. So, just Thank you for patiently waiting. 

All right, well  that, that's pretty much it for me. Your personal signs of burnout are your cue to slow down or to take a break before you have a mental break down.  And you kind of have to combat the thoughts that  If you slow down, you're gonna get behind, and, like, all the catastrophic things are going to happen, because how can I slow down when I have so many things on my plate?

Oh my god! The world is burning!  It's not burning. You're burning. You're burning out. So just  put, put, put down the mouse, close your laptop, and go and take a nap.  And I know that's easier said than done, because most often, like, more often than not, you don't have time. To take a nap, or to go and do the things that you just want to do, like veg out on the couch and watch Emily in Paris.

Which, if you haven't watched Emily in Paris yet, It's a really great show  and I'm pretty sad that I am now in a show hole waiting for episode 5 So if you also love Emily in Paris, like go and DM me on Instagram because I love chatting about shows and Especially if you also watch Sex in the City and can draw some parallels. 

That was off on a tangent, but yeah go in Slow down a little bit, because if you don't slow down, the universe, or God, or whoever it is that you believe in, is gonna make you slow down, and they're gonna force you to do it. So, if you're ignoring the signs of your body to get rest, like, Universe or God is gonna put your ass down and be like, Oh yeah, you don't wanna, you don't wanna take a break?

I'm just gonna make you a little bit sick. I'm gonna give you a cold. I'm gonna give you the flu. I'm gonna  break your collarbone. I'm gonna do this, this, this. I'm gonna have, give you  three panic attacks in two days. Which happened to me last week. So,  if you don't listen to the cues  of your body and what the signs of the burnout are,  you are going to catch fire. 

I don't want to end it like that, but I just want you to care about yourself, care about you, show yourself the love that you show other people, and recharge your batteries, refill your cup, whatever cliche you want to enter there, like, do it.  Alright, well, I will talk to you next week, um, thanks for sticking around, and I look forward to  what's coming up next.

What are gonna be the next things, like, once I, like, get back into my groove, like, 100 percent me, what's gonna happen? I'm super excited, actually. So, alright, well, I will talk to you next week. Toodles! So something I've been working on and I'm super excited about is the five day microjournaling challenge audio series.

Um, I did a challenge back in November and this is going to be a version of that, but it's going to be available to you.  So you don't have to wait for me to put on a live event. You can just go and be like, Oh, I feel like I really want to start a journaling practice, but I don't know where to start. I don't have time for that.

Like I'm a busy mom. I just got tons of shit to do all the time. Well, go and do this five day microjournaling challenge. I know that you're probably thinking, like, journaling, I just said I don't have time. But literally, this, like, builds it into your day. Someone was talking to me the other day about building white space into their schedule to have time to think and just kind of unwind, decompress. 

Well, microjournaling is building that white space into your day every day.  You just literally write down whatever it is that you're thinking. You don't even have to think about what you want to write. You just write what you're thinking.  Which  sounds easy,  and it is easy. Like whenever you get a thought, instead of going to your phone app, or instead of going to your notes app in your phone, just Just write it down on the daily planner sheet and you can download that.

I have the link in the show notes for you. Thanks again for listening and visit buy me a coffee at buymeacoffee. com forward slash blissfully bold podcast for another way to support the show. And I will also link that in the show notes.